I recently read an article about regrets people have when they come to the end of their lives. I completely agree with the study’s conclusion. Most people regret not doing things that they wished they would have. The study shows that people do not regret finding a good job, raising a family, and paying their bills. These are what are expected of a good citizen. What is not expected so much is to write that book, earn that degree, travel to another country, apply for that job you believe you are not qualified for etc.
So if you are reading this you are more than capable of doing something before you die you may be afraid of doing. What if you married the wrong spouse? Or, maybe someone you wanted to be with did not marry you? Did you tell them? Maybe you should, or shouldn’t? I have heard that something’s are better left unsaid, but that could be complete bullshit if you are going to have regrets about it later.
We are often just scared and lazy. We could write that book. Write a page a day and in less than a year you will have completed something only people dream about. You could go back to school for a degree, with so many online options no one has an excuse. Yet there is the money that it will take. So what? Take out the loans and do it; especially if it is a master’s or doctorate. I am a current doctoral student and am in debt because of it; yet I would rather be in debt for a short while than die knowing I did not accomplish a desire of my heart.
Often people do not exactly obtain their childhood dream job. Some people do. I know how it is to be intimidated by job descriptions and not apply. I feel inadequate, and then I think to myself these people are no better than me, with enough practice I can do it. We get secure in our positions and then get mad at the guy with the large bank account. It is not his fault, it is yours. Go for it. I have a good job that I am happy with at the moment; I would not have it if I did not apply for it once get rejected then applied again and received an offer. You are your own boss never be intimidated.
There are countless examples that I could give. Getting in shape, learning martial arts, taking a painting class, buying a motorcycle; hell go to Colorado and get stoned if you never have before. Go shoot guns, date multiple people, give money to the poor and volunteer for the children. Buy the new car, build the new house, and move to California to take up surfing.
The reality is you are not intimidated by others; you are actually intimidated of yourself. Self-doubt equals failure. Fear not and live a life of no regrets!